Riley flipped out in violin today after a series of things happened at school (substitute teacher, difficulty with an activity in gym class, etc..). She was tired and her fingers weren't working right. She made a couple of mistakes and couldn't deal with her own imperfection. I took her out in the hall to calm down, and when we got back in, she escalated all over again because she had missed a song she had worked hard on at home and had been excited about playing. The teacher stopped everything and told her "there would be no screaming in her class," and then told her she had to APOLOGIZE to the other students. Livid, I immediately took her out, which further escalated the situation because she was devastated to be missing violin class. I got a lot of looks from other teachers, some concerned, others disgusted, as I sat in the hall holding my screaming child. Seth sat on the floor next to us, silent.
I am so sick of professionals being so uneducated about these kids. After class I talked with the teacher. She said Riley was scaring the other kids and taking up their time. I asked if a child with epilepsy had a seizure, would she make them apologize for scaring the other children or taking up their time? It IS NOT A BEHAVIORIAL ISSUE. If she could control herself, she would, and she does, most of the time. If she can't, I remove her from violin class. I believe the teacher is really willing to try and she has a good heart. She felt bad about the whole thing and welcomed my feedback and.... she apologized.
The good news? Riley pooped at school and took care of everything all by herself (see previous post).