Imagine growing up with this information as a child?
The teacher, the preacher, the doctor, your friends, your enemies, your parents, are not the authority on you. You are the authority on you.
The tooth fairy came to our house this week. Yesterday, Riley stood in the toy aisle, ready to spend her dollar (and a few more of mine). Sometimes her brain has a hard time making decisions. It's like a continuous escalating loop in her head, with life or death consequences to each choice, as far as she's concerned.
After a long look, up and down the toy aisles she finally asked,
"Mommy, what do you think I want?"
It would be so easy to just pick something for her, so we could get out of the store already.
I take a deep breath and say,"I can't tell you that Riley. Only you know what you want."
She finally did find just the thing.