Listening to my weekly Abraham CD in the car today, I heard the words, "You can never punish someone into alignment." The premise being, the spouse, child, employee, whomever is acting out because they are feeling disconnected with Source. Punishing them only furthers their feelings of separation, and it's never effective. They might acquiesce in the short run, but the problem is not solved.
Three minutes after we got in the door, I notice Seth holding his crotch.
"Seth you need to go use the potty." I say.
"NO I DON'T!" He stomps his foot.
I give him a stern, "Yes, you do" look and he flings himself onto the floor in protest.
Abraham says, "Remind them of who they are."
Hmmm.....you mean he's not this little raggedy-ass ball of misery I see in front of me?
Picking him up, I carry him toward the bathroom, saying, "Boy, you sure must not be feeling well, because this is not like you. You are such a sweet little boy. So polite."
"I don't have to go!" He wails, flailing and kicking my thighs.
"Seth, you just kicked me. I know how good you are. You would never want to hurt Mommy."
He stops kicking.
"I sit him on the potty and it was a close call ("like a race horse" comes to mind).
When he's done washing his hands, he hugs me. I'm feeling great because I totally did not get sucked in.
Had I not listened to that CD today the outcome would have been very different. I would have threatened him, given him consequences. Or perhaps I would have let it go, only to be furious when he dribbled in his underpants 10 minutes later.
A dark cloud would have hung over our afternoon.
Such a simple shift in perspective. "Remind them of who they really are."
Such a profound difference.