According to Abraham, a parent is best when they are aligned with Source. Abraham also says you can be a really good parent, even when you aren't aligned with Source, if you'll just admit you are not aligned with Source.
Instead of: "Seth, you are a bad boy because you aren't doing what I want you to do right this moment. "
I could say: "Seth, Mommy can't deal with the fact that you aren't doing what I want you to do right at this moment."
He still has to obey (I mean...if he wants to live under my roof, right?....kidding)!
Or how 'bout this for the older child?
"You have to go to church because I said so."
"You have to go to church because it's important to me and I feel like I'm failing as a parent if you don't go."
If church is your thing, the kid still has to go, but it's clearly about you, not a character issue with them.
Because it is...you know.
It's always about you.
I mean, me.