The following article really got me thinking. Autism is for sure a family issue, but more than that, it is a women's issue. I know some dads are highly involved and God love you, but for the most part moms are doing the research on treatment options and moms are taking care of the kids. My husband is falling on the floor tired on days he's home with the children. He works hard at his job everyday, but 8 hours at the hospital does not quite have the same exhaustive effect on him.
Since men still make more money than women (for the same work) it is mothers who have to give up their careers to care for these (expensive) kids, putting the family at an economic disadvantage now, and putting her in particular jeopardy down the road if the marriage breaks up, which something like 80 percent of marriages do, if autism is involved. People have no idea the pressure (financial and emotional) autism puts on a family.
And another thing, it is the mothers doctors are poo-pooing. I had one pediatrician give me a very hard time, using hostility and scare tactics when I told her I wanted Seth's MMR vaccine in three separate shots spread out over time. When we wound up back in her office two days later with a sick kid (probably something he picked up during his "well" visit) Todd was with me. She didn't utter a word about our immunization choices. Why didn't Todd get to experience the brunt of her battering? I think it has something to do with that which hangs between his legs.
The Age of Autism Article talks about how mothers have been blamed for autism. First, it was believed they caused the condition by being "too cold." Now they are dismissed for being too emotional. Anyhoo....here is a link to the article:
I think it was Clarissa Pinkola Estes's who advised, when someone tells you you're being too emotional, reply with:"Yes, I have well placed emotions. Where are yours?"
And to anyone who wants to treat women, especially autism moms, with anything less than respect, I say, "Up yours."