So you have a new friend over, and she is a tea drinker. You show her all of your teas. Gosh, you have about 10 different varieties. As she looks each one over, her facial expression begins to look like she smells a turd.
She declines any of your tea.
Option one: You are offended. What's wrong with Yogi tea in every variety?
Option two: You applaud the woman for not ingesting something she would not enjoy.
I vacillate between the two.
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She's clearly someone who is RUDE. She could have had a glass just to join you for the tea. I would be offended and think that she thinks my teas are not good enough for her.
(JUST MY OPINION)
I don't know? I am serious about my chocolate. If someone offered me a crap brand, like Brachs, I'd probably pass.
I'm leaning toward just being amused.
She's a lovely woman, really. One who hopefully does not read my blog!
Hey, I just cleaned out our tea cupboard over the weekend - and we also had at least 10 different kinds. In the end I kept one, my favorite, and gave the rest to Ron to bring into his work. What can I say? I love what I love.
In that case, I'd cut her some slack. Everyone has their various food vulnerabilities. I can't choke down mayonnaise or anything containing it, for example, and I have a very hard time with the tangier and/or gamier dairy products (yogurt, feta, cream cheese, etc.). So I sympathize with people who, for one reason or another, just can't bring themselves to consume what's on offer.
There are ways and means of expressing one's preferences with regard to everything under the moon and a polite refusal is quite enough - certainly no need to pull faces or anything vaguely similar..!
"Variety is the spice of life", they say, and I simply love discovering new tastes, places, people..:)
I always enjoy a little reminder that it's not just kids on the spectrum who need to work on their social skills.
Offended and not invited back. She could have accepted a cup and let it sit. Or she could have asked for a glass of water. "Oh don't go to any trouble, I'd love a glass of water though!" That's called social grace.
Unless every tea was caffeinated and she can only drink de-caf, she was just plain rude.
Next time give her a glass of hemp milk and send her packing.
K
Perhaps she was really asking for a *different* type of tea? A little Kentucky Tea...? I mean, if I were asking you to set me up with some TEA, and you offered my some Yogi tea in a fair trade cup... why, I might just put on a turd face as well. How offensive!
When she put the puss on, did you ask her what kind of tea she DID like?! I would wonder after offering 10 teas, you know? Especially if you're not a huge tea drinker.
If she's a lovely woman, I'd let it go and if you spend more time with her and she is still turdly, then you will know exactly what to do!
I do agree that it does not seem right to treat a new friend that way, though, you know? Oh well.
Some People--What are you going to do?
Jeanne! Ha! I'm assuming from your comment that Kentucky folk like to make their tea more *interesting?*
Kentucky Tea is bourbon, no tea.
Perhaps next time you have your new friend over you could put a bottle of bourbon next to the Yogi..?
Seriously though, do ya think your guest was looking for Lipton bags? I get that request a lot from company. "Oh, ginger tea... throat coat... red tea... ummm... do you have any Lipton?" To which my answer is, "Nope. How about some bourbon?" I kid, I kid. I don't say that.
I keep a small box of Lipton tea bags in the back of the cabinet for those folks who give the turd face when I show them my tea collection.
Is her name Carrie?
Ketucky tea, as in "the recipe?" A la the Baldwin sisters on The Waltons. Even this Nawthern gal picked up on that one! LOL! Stick with the hemp milk Milonka! (Then again, I'm having a day. Have you seen A of A today?)
In all fairness - it would have been a wise call in my house. Certainly those teas I was gifted but only like a few of should expire at some point...she could have been taking life in her own hands. Loved your honesty as always Michelle!
My mom brings her own Lipton Teabags. I have decided to view it as quirky. (Of course she is my mother, what choice do I really have?)
Maybe she wanted iced tea? Probably not. Hmm. I don't like the turd face, and if someone pulled it in my house (and weren't related to me!) I don't know if I'd invite them back. Maybe meet her in a lovely fancy tea house next time? I like nice things, too, but sometimes as a social grace you take the stuff you don't like or politely decline and ask for water, as Kim mentioned. Oh, and I'd have to agree with you on the Brachs. I don't know that I'd want to be friends with someone who eats Brachs, I mean if they're over the age of ten. ;)
Yum, Yogi teas are so good and so gourmet. My mom brings over her own Red Rose(do y'all have that in The US of A? Oh, and is it just a Canadian myth that you don't use tea kettles but instead boil water in a pot on the stove? Can you see my turdish expression form here?).
Perhaps this woman only likes regular tea and hasn't perfected the inner vs outer turd face skill. I know mine slips out when I meet people who only like regular teas...
Naomi,
It's not myth. I'm against tea pots. Never met one that didn't get all gunky inside. I boil my water in a stainless steel pan. Clean as a whistle.
Though usually, I don't drink tea at all. I'm a coffee girl.
If you're that much of a tea snob, take your own!!
Spoken by a true tea-swilling Brit
In the grand scheme of things, how important is her social gaffe to you?
If it is, let her go.
If not, carry on.
Life's too short.
Sweet Jesus. All I could think after reading this is how much easier it is being a man. We probably wouldn't have even noticed the situation in the first place, much less worried about it afterward. Sometimes it helps to be a little less exquisitely in tune with everything and everyone.
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