"They hate us! They think we're bad!" She cried as she buried her head in a pillow on the couch.
"Riley, what are you talking about?"
She'd been working her angle, trying to get me to fork over money to pay for a subscription to Toontown. It's an on-line video game, and you can only do so much if you are not a member.
As always, I told her to think about what she wanted and why she wanted it. My kids understand the law of attraction. They get how thinking about what you want from a needy place only produces more of what you don't have. They get how visualizing from a place of joy, from a place of happy anticipation is much more effective. They know I will never, ever cave in to a whine. They also know I'm a sucker for a happy child off in the corner, imagining the thing they want so vividly.
So what's the deal? Who hates us?
It took some time to get it out of her, but here's the scenario.
At karate a couple of weeks ago, the teacher asked, "What's the opposite of complain?"
Riley raised her hand and when called on answered, "Visualize?"
The teacher said "No. Not exactly." She was looking for the word, "compliment."
Riley internalized this, turning it into "people hate us and think we're bad because we visualize." She carried this around for over two weeks.
After assuring her that the karate teacher actually encourages visualizing, she seemed to feel better.
Can you imagine how frightening and confusing the world is in black and white?
I'm visualizing shades of grey and all the colors of the rainbow for Riley.