Wednesday, February 11, 2009

My Hero

It was the meltdown of all meltdowns. At least in recent history. For homework, Riley had to write a short letter about one of her heros, using three spelling words.

It was too much. She could not decide who to choose. It was as if someone had a gun to her Chickie, saying, "pick the wrong one kid, and the bird gets it."

We sat at the kitchen table, her screaming, hitting herself, crying, begging to give up. Seth sat at the table with us, alternating between coloring and holding his ears.

I reached out and held her hand. She allowed it, but continued to fuss. Seth and I just sat with her until she worked it through. It took quite a while.

Finally, she picked her pen pal, Ms. M as a hero.

Dear Ms. K.,

My Friend Ms. M. is my hero. She is loyal and sometimes coy like me. She enjoys singing in a choir and someday I hope to hear her voice in person.

Your student,

Riley (spelling words highlighted)

It was a rough night. Tucking them in I was whooped.

At bed, we always do "Happy Thoughts" but Riley was spent tonight. She couldn't think.

In jest, I made a suggestion,

"How 'bout every single minute of your life that I've loved you, even before you were born?"

"Even when I have a hard time?" she asked, big eyes peeking out from under her quilt.

"Even when you have a hard time," I said as I kissed her head.

She pulled her covers down a little and said, "I'm very proud of you for handling situations like that."

Taken aback, I chuckled, "You're proud of me?"

"Yes. You're one of my heros," she said.

I was speechless.

"You're a good mom," she added, smiling her pure smile, so innocent and sincere.

She works harder than anyone I know just to get through a typical day. Most of the time she does an amazing job. If any one's a hero, it's her.

26 comments:

Niksmom said...

Oh my. Sneak in and give ner a gentle kiss from me when you get a chance. What a doll.

Dianne said...

I often think of Riley when I feel like I'm trying too hard and not geting anywhere.

Tell her she's my hero.

That's some letter she put together.

jesswilson said...

oh, my heart is so full .. she picked two of my heroes too .. miss m and you. she's right, you know

Quirky Mom said...

Awww, how wonderful!!! <3

I can empathize with her difficulty doing that writing assignment. I think I could spend a week or month trying to come up with a hero to write about, and I still wouldn't be satisfied.

Wanda said...

Kinda makes up for not being the audience of one, doesn't it?

Carnal Zen said...

Tears. Seriously.

Carrie Wilson Link said...

There's room for 2 heros.

Take the A.

Stan said...

Man, did you have to make me tear when I just put on mascara?

Full Soul Ahead! said...

Stan, you wear mascara?

How interesting!

Petra said...

Oh drat.. between Jess' 'fiery love' post and now this one from you and having had a pretty crappy morning out here (inflicted by me, I will fully admit to that :( )..

That's it.. I'm going to crawl into my bed and have my annual nervous breakdown..(of 10 minutes tops..)

Our kids are heros, they truly are. I've been telling Salamander over and over and over again these past rough days he's had that I am so incredibly proud of him, that he has accomplished so much (especially from being an out of control, "Taz devil hopped up on speed & caffeine" Kindergartner).. not sure it truly sinks in though..

K Fuller said...

Thanks for reminding everyone that some kids need to hear about our unconditional love... everyday.

Amanda said...

So, another tag team....Seth whips the rug out by having Riley as his audience of one, then Riley picks you up with this. Just like my girls.

Drama Mama said...

May I say, that, in spite of her difficulties at times...she has excellent taste?

And she is maturing. And learning. And growing.

What a hero. Imagine how hard she has to work every day.

Miracle girl.

Amber said...

What a good kid. What a LUCKY kid.

:)

Amber said...

Every kid should be so lucky.

:)

Kathryn said...

I love her so much.

Tanya @ Teenautism said...

That is just beautiful, and lovely. What a sweetheart.

They do. They try so very hard. My heart just overflows with love.

Me said...

You see...you share these moments that are so deep and rich. It is just beautiful.

Good job Riley!

Lola said...

How amazing:)
Lo

Susan's 365 said...

Wow! Riley is amazing...and so ar you! Reading that last part gave me the chills.

Carolyn said...

Once again, you've brought me to tears. Riley sounds like she's got a very mature soul.

kyra said...

that is so beautiful! she's one of MY heros.

AuthorMomWithDogs said...

Holy cow! That took my breath away. Life is most amazing, isn't it.

s@bd said...

love.

just, love.

that's all I have to say.

love.

Jess said...

Love that story. Wonderful.

She is proud of you for handling situations like that? Priceless.

She said...

Well since I was already crying from reading about N, this post just made me cry harder -- but a joyous cry, a beautiful, poignant, joyous cry. So glad you two have each other!

Love.