Yesterday Riley did something most people take for granted. She got her hair cut at a salon, and in doing so, she allowed herself to be shampooed in the salon sink. Usually the hair stylist has to wet down her hair with a spray bottle. Riley white knuckled it, holding on to the chair and flinched each time the water was turned on. She even asked for a break because her neck was getting tired. She didn't start crying or have a meltdown.
Her stipulation for even going was, "No blow dryers."
But...Lori the stylist said, "I have this glitter spray, and your hair needs to be dry for it to work. It's totally up to you though."
Riley's eyes went wide, "Glitter?"
We agreed to use the blow dryer on the very lowest setting. Lori turned it on and let her get used to the sound before coming near her head with it. Riley's shoulders were up to her ears the whole time, but that little girl had her first blow out!
We needed to cut her hair because combing it had become a nightmare. Her sensory issues made it a 20 minute screaming fest each morning before school. Her worst fear was that she'd look like a boy with her hair cut shorter.
The expression on her face, grinning ear to ear as she checked herself out in the mirror was too precious to even fathom. Her hair is cut to just below her shoulders in a little bob. In the car on the way home, she said, "We have a lot of fun times together." I'm sure I've never heard a more beautiful sentence.
This morning I anticipate a very hard time getting her out the home door and in the school door. The fear of everyone noticing her hair will likely be overwhelming.
Living and learning here.
She has decided to grow out her bangs, and she is giving her ponytails to Locks of Love.
I have decided to be happy about the experience yesterday no matter what happens on the way in to school today.
Love and glitter,
MO'N
Thursday, March 19, 2009
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I'm sure it's adorable and she'll rally and request Ms. M again. Can't wait to see thepic
I will check back for an update and I want to see the bob! I bet she is just adorable. This is HUGE.
Previous.. oh so precious...and such incredibly HUGE steps.
I am sure that Riley looks adorable.
And love your 'staying in the moment' closing sentence. Do let us know how this am went though.
Love to you all
Wow. I got goosebumps reading this! Seriously. First jeans and now the haircut AND blow-dry? It's like someone sprinkled fairy dust on my day after reading this. :-)
I know that you rarely do pics...but maybe one from the back?
And that is one tremendous step.
TREMENDOUS.
Those dates that you two have sure are fun, aren't they?
so proud of her!!!!
The "fun times" sentence is such a hoot. Glad it went well.
Like everyone here, I'm thrilled for Riley's fun times and her courage.
Every step forward brings the knowledge that she's out on a new edge and visible in a new way. Your ability to stay in the moment is simply amazing.
Blessings to you all, Michelle.
Fantastic! Lori was a genius. Another wonderful milestone for Riley and you. KIM
This was a great post.
Reading the story I could just see her eyes sparkling when she heard about the glitter. Great stuff.
I noticed that you've run a number of posts about things we can do to make a difference in the world.
I have a suggestion, which is something I do, that's easy and in affect, free.
Every day I get free coupons from iShopSummit.com for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Aside from using coupons from local companies, I...
buy a meal using a buy one/get one free coupon, at least once a day, and give the meal to someone I don't know. Of course, I also encourage them to PAY IT FORWARD.
You should see the response I get from people. It leaves no doubt they're helping someone else.
How did you not burst into tears when she declared that you have such fun times together? I did just reading it!
Haircuts have always been an "issue" for Tim ... we've worked on this for five years and we still have the hunched up shoulders and occasional crying jags. Don't even ask about the hair gel incident of 2008!!!
I love your stories and I love hearing your love-stuffed family. Please post a pic of the new do!
Thrilled for you and Riley!!!
So I have a recommendation for you.
There is a hairbrush made by a company called Mason Pearson. Gets out knots without a hassle. They are very pricey but me being ya know cheap Sephora make a nice knock off that works just as well.
Let the fun times roll!!!
Haircuts! I know, I know, I know! And I really want to see a picture, even though I never posted pics from our last, um, session...
Hope today is just FAB for Riley.
xo
that's so wonderful when they overcome their sensory issues and anxiety to do something new--i'm so happy for her!!
Oh my. I wish we could all be here to (quietly) cheer her on! How wonderful. What a wonderful moment for you, mom.
:)
Wow. Yay.
What else is there to say?
My heart sings for your collective successes.
I'm too choked up to speak!
love and glitter.
Short and sassy -- woo hoo!
I LOVE YOUR GIRL! She's so awesome. She shows such courage and grace.
I was teaching my students about comfort zones yesterday and how much courage it takes to step out of ours, but for growth to happen, we must take those steps.
Riley shows us all how to do this!!!
Love.
"We have a lot of fun times together." I'm sure I've never heard a more beautiful sentence.
It's these kind of words that take me down
Yay! Riley!
Awwww, what she said about fun times made me tear up. She's such a sweet girl. <3
Wow! What HUGE steps she has taken lately. WTG Riley! She is beautiful!!!
Saying that she is beautiful is not a big enough word.
Wow!
Um, comments are off on her picture...but Michele...the photo?
Totally adorable.
Totally.
Love and Littlest Pet Shop,
Drama
Ditto to what Drama said..
Ohh so beautiful, lovely!!! The whole story had me grinning. What a lot of amazing things happened, esp when you were glad just to be going to the hair dressers in the first place.
Hmm will glitter spray solve every problem, do you think? *sprays hand dryer with glitter* Nope, lol.
Wow, Michelle! I'm thrilled for you! What a milestone for her. And her pic is too cute!
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