When I was in my darkest hour with Riley, I reached out to a woman who was writing a column for a newsletter called The Holy Encounter. This woman had experience running a day care using the principles of A Course in Miracles. In a nutshell, those principles are, if it doesn't look like love it must be fear. Period.
Louise didn't know me at all, but answered my e-mail and gave me her phone number. We were desperate. Riley was two and screaming non-stop. Seth was a baby. None of us had slept in months. I was having panic attacks. It was taking its toll on Todd. I feared I might just lose it, really lose it on her one day. I felt my life was over. I sometimes hated my child. There was so much despair in our house.
Louise talked to me several times, for hours. Her kind, firm, loving presence got me on the right track.
-This can be a spiritual journey.
-Things aren't always what they appear.
-Her behavior is trying to tell you something.
-She is not trying to make your life hell.
-If it doesn't look like love it must be fear.
-She is afraid and needs compassion.
-When I am out of control, and angry, I am afraid and need compassion.
Louise referred me to the Son Rise books, which led us to our weekend at The Option Institute, which led us to see Raun Kaufman speak, which gave us hope things could change, which led us to try DAN! doctor Elizabeth Mumper who recommended methylated B-12 shots, which Riley was a great responder to, and on and on we've gone, ever expanding since.
Louise got us unstuck.
She helped me to see things differently and told me even if I can't see things differently, to ask God for the willingness. Just that much would be enough.
I'm welling up just thinking about how much she helped us.
Louise Frechette has since become a life coach. Of course she has!
Her new webpage offers a wealth of information and she is also starting a 4 week teleclass series next week, focusing on practical and soulful solutions for raising emotionally and spiritually aware children. The introductory class is free. Click here for details. I plan on taking part in the Wednesday daytime class.
Thank you Louise. From the bottom of my willing little heart, I thank you.
Love.
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This brings tears to my eyes!
Oh, thank God for these angels in our lives. I was just writing the other day about a woman who helped me profoundly in my life, too. I will check out her page. I want to personally thank her for helping my favorite family through. :)
I also found angels in my life along our journey, and I swear if I hadn't found them, one of us would be dead by now. I also believe when you have a special needs child that you will encounter very special people that you would never have met if you had disorder-free kids.
What a beautiful post. What a beautiful friend. What beautiful timing.
:)
What a gift!
Wonderful is not enough of a word for her. And just tonight I posted about possibly needing a life coach. No accidents. Love.
Amen.
I know that feeling - the one just before you close the door on them to stop you throwing them out the window. That or knocking them into the middle of next week because nothing you do works, nothing makes them happy and nothing lets you sleep. Thankfully we had a great paediatrician and health visitor, kind of a tag team actually, for whom I will always be grateful. I think someone must be watching over me and mine because we seem to collect great people. Right when I really need someone, up the pop. I just hope I can be that person for someone in their hour of need.
BTW, and more importantly, IT'S ONLY THREE AND A HALF WEEKS TO DOGGIE TIME!! GOD I'm excited!
i'm glad you were able to find someone who could say the right things, at the right time.
those people: they generate real corner-turning moments, the kind that reverberate the rest of your life. and i'm glad she's a lifecoach, seems like she's a natural fit for that.
and just so you know: you and riley are creating corner-turning moments here; you guys have the gift as well, with your wisdom, strength.
so there.
Thank you, Louise. Because she unstuck you, you are unstucking hundreds of people,Michelle.
Thanks so much, Michelle! You are so welcome. Your words brought tears to my eyes, too...it was a gift to me to be able to help you and know it was making a difference. You've been an inspiration to me for having the willingness and courage to look beyond the status quo approach and consider new ways of looking at Riley and yourself and doing everything you could to help her. And you’re still doing it and making a huge, wonderful difference in her life, as well as in Seth’s life!
And just so you know, you made it easy to help just by being who you are: a deeply loving and devoted mother who, despite challenges, setbacks, doubts and mistakes we all make because we're human, was so open-minded and followed through on my suggestions...always going the extra mile in so many ways.
Thanks for sharing the information about my teleclasses -- you've got a great group of friends and I so much appreciate all the wonderful comments everyone posted!
I'm still pretty new to blogging but am looking forward little by little to entering the dialogue and sharing in the collective wisdom you all bring!
With much love and thanks,
Louise
Wow...inspiration meets inspiration. What a blessing.
Love this: "If it doesn't look like love it must be fear."
I am welling up too. I did not know you looked in to the Son Rise program, I am just finding out about it. What wise women you both are.
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